Sexual abstinence
Sexual abstinence is not a rare thing in our life. For example, a quarell between a husband and a wife is likely to result in a long sex war until one of the adversaries agrees to compromise. Or abstinence can take place if one of the partners spends all his or her time at work and as a result the bed covers with cobweb. Does the fact that abstinence is not an infrequent thing mean that it is harmless?
According to doctors opinion, abstinence is very harmful to sexual health as well as to health in general. Abstinence affects mens physical health and womens psychic one. A woman usually gives up sex voluntarily, for example, if she does not have a permanent sex partner and does not want to sleep around. Men, unlike women, cope with such a problem easily. If a man does not have a beloved woman he goes to an unloved one or to a prostitute. So strong sex abstinence as a rule is a forced one (for instance, in army or in prison).
The researches show that long lasting abstinence is likely to make many troubles for a woman.
The matter is that sex enjoyment and orgasm are necessary for a womans normal psychical state. If a woman is deprived of intimate relationship, she becomes irritable and explosive. Sex for a woman is not only an intercourse, but as well a sign of trustful communication with the beloved man.
When there is no such kind of communication, a woman becomes very strict, critical and disposed to condemn everything and everyone. This in its turn affects the womans relationship with her relatives, friends, business partners and other people.
It is recommended to substitute sex with masturbation in order to avoid such problems. Men often masturbate, even when their sex life is in order. Women, unlike men, often do not resort to masturbation even being deprived of sex, but in vain. Masturbation is not a sin. This is a good way to avoid problems sexual abstinince causes.
Another way out is use of sex toys. There is plenty of sex toys designed specially for those who do not have possibility to make love with a beloved person and at the same time do not want to sleep around. There are dildos, vibrators, realistic dolls and vagina which perfectly help those who lack sex to get rid of unpleasant sensations sexual abstinence cause. Another sex toys advantage consists in the fact that they, unlike occasional partners cannot infect you with STDs. Do not suffer from abstinence! Use sex toys!
Sexual abstinence brings about not only psychological problems. It affects both male and female sexual function.
Men who do not have sex for quite a long time have problems concerning erection and ejaculaiton. All complications abstinence causes greatly depend on a mans age and abstinence duration. A man of 25 with a strong sexual temperament cannot live without sex even two weeks, but a long lasting abstenence will not affect his sexual function. If a man is 30-35, than a break in his sex life is likely to bring about early ejaculation and erection weakening. But as a rule, renewal of sex life normalizes all functions again. If a man is about 40, he may need a special treatment. And sex life of a man older than 50 is likely to stop forever after a two three months break. Sexual health must be maintained by regular and enjoyable sex life
Women who do not have sex for quite a long time at first experience a drastic sexual arousal strenghtening, but after a few months arousal can dissapear completely. After sex life renewal a woman is likely to experience unpleasant sensations and even pain in vagina, because the vagina produces less lubricant after abstinence. Also arousal growing becomes slowlier than usual. By the way, a woman can have climax problems. If there was a long period of abstinence, orgasm can come back only after a few months.
So what is to be done? First of all, a woman should ask her partner to prolong foreplay. Women having a regular sex life usually need 15 minutes to get aroused enough. Those who had quite a long period without sex need at least 30 minutes to awake their sleeping erogenuous zones. It would be perfect if the partner made such a woman orgasm by cunilingus. Almost all women achieve a strong orgasm while getting such a stimulation, even after a long-lasting abstinence.
It is recommended to use some additional lubricant for vaginal intercourse until vagina learns again to produce its necessary amount.
A woman making love with a man who had a long period of abstinence should be very tactful. Mockery and reproaches concerning male abilities can result in serious sexual problems. So if a man does not manage to do something, his woman should just say that she loves him in spite of any problems and she is sure that these problems are short term ones.
Indeed, sexual abstinence can be harmful. But this is not the reason to think sexual health can be maintained or improved by having sex 5 times a day. Sex life should be as frequent as you wish.
Usually, a person younger than 40 has sex 4-5 times a week. Men and women younger than 40 make love 3-4 times a week, and those who are about 50 do it twice a week. However, sex life frequency depends on temperament, psychological peculiarities and other factors.
If you have sex more seldom than you wish, if you restrain yourself, you are likely to get various health problems, for instance hormonal disbalance. If you make yourself have sex without any wish and being eager to treat a disease in such a way, than you will certainly have some psychological problems. So do not make up any sex schedules. There are few things in our life we can do when we want to. Sex is one of them. Enjoy it.
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