Anorgasmy
Female orgasm, unlike male one is not a necessary component of sexual intercourse, because it is not a compulsory condition for conception. Women who do not orgasm get pregnant and give birth to healthy children as well as those who do not have any problems related to their sexual health. However, unlike she-animals, women are aware of orgasm and are eager to experience it. Unfortunately, not all of them (to say the least of it) can cum and do that every time they have a sexual contact.
Many people think that women who do not achieve orgasm are frigid i.e indifferent to sex. This is far from being true. The fact is that many women do not orgasm in spite of high sexual desire, achieved sexual arousal and pleasure experienced during intercourse. Anorgasmy is more frequent disorder, than frigidity. At least a quarter of women never experienced orgasm; more than one third of them experience it only from time to time and are justly not pleased with this sad fact.
At the same time there are many women who have never experienced orgasm and in spite of this fact are satisfied with their sexual relationships. Only those women who managed to achieve orgasm for a few times in their life are eager to experience these extremely enjoyable sensations again and again.
Anorgasmy is the most frequent female sexual disorder. But remember, that a woman can be considered to have anorgasmy only if she experiences orgasm so rarely that this makes her unsatisfied and worried.
Female orgasm has both psychological and physiological nature that is why it is influenced by many factors, such as: a womans attitude towards the partner, circumstances a couple makes love in, the partners being familiar with peculiarities of each others sexuality and many other factors. Perhaps you have realized that a male partner greatly influences a womans ability to orgasm. He must be experienced and creative enough to evoke sexual desire in his woman. But he will not manage to do anything if the woman does not love him. No wonder why prostitutes do not orgasm while doing their job.
The most spread type of anorgasmy is situational one, when a woman cannot orgasm in some certain circumstances or when she can cum only provided there is a combination of some certain conditions. The most typical example of situational anorgasmy is coital anorgasmy when a woman cannot orgasm while sexual intercourse, whereas she cums while using a sex toy or while receiving oral sex.
Approximately a quarter of women suffer from primary anorgasmy: these women have never experienced orgasm. In this case treatment is more complicated and, unfortunately, less effective.
Secondary anorgasmy, i.e. lost ability to orgasm, like primary one in most cases is not caused by organic disorders. Usually secondary anorgasmy is caused by such things as discord in relationships, fear of sexual intercourse caused by some certain reasons or some neurotic disorders, for example by neurotic expectation of possible failure. A woman worries about orgasm and tries to do everything to achieve it. However, usually she does not manage to do this. On the contrary: the more efforts to achieve the desired enjoyment a woman makes the fewer chances to orgasm she has, because orgasm is a biological phenomenon which like digestion or heartbeat cannot be controlled. Do not get nervous trying to get pleasure. If you manage to think about something else, to get rid of unnecessary thoughts, expectations and other things which prevent your body for normal physiological functioning, than you are more likely to experience sensations you are eager to reach.
However, not all women can normalize their arousal by simple abstraction. This can help only those who lost ability to orgasm after quite a long period of normal sexual relationships and who do not lack mutual understanding with the partner. This is quite evident: no woman can orgasm with a partner who ejaculates too early or does not care about her pleasure. On the other hand, if a woman has never experienced orgasm, than her partner, even the most loving and selfless one, does not know how to satisfy her.
You can see that anorgasmy is not a purely womens sexual health problem. It can be caused by a womans physiology or state of her psyche as well as by her partners selfish behavior in bed or some sexual disorders. That is why a couple should necessarily apply to a doctor together. Otherwise the treatment is unlikely to be successful.
If a woman cannot orgasm because she knows nothing about her sexuality than she first of all must find out what erogenous zones she has and how these should be stimulated. Here masturbation will be of a good help. Masturbation gives a woman the necessary experience and helps her to learn more about her sexual response. Masturbation with sex toys is the most effective one, because many sex toys resemble male genitals and thus imitate partnered sexual intercourse. Having found out what she needs in sexual relationships a woman can easily teach her partner what he should do to satisfy her.
If the male partner is to blame for anorgasmy, than he should receive the necessary treatment in order to get rid of early ejaculation, erection dysfunction and other disorders. While receiving the treatment the partners should by no means stop their sex life. Penis is not the only thing giving sexual pleasure. There are fingers, sex toys, tongueSex is not limited to intercourse. Let your sexual relationships be various!
Never hesitate to see a doctor. Only a specialist can find what your anorgasmy is caused by and prescribe you the necessary treatment which will help you get rid of problems related to sexual arousal and general sexual health.
